On The Flip Side. . .
With all of this brou ha-ha over gay marriage it is sort of refreshing to see someone having a completely opposite set of problems. It seems that a couple in Missouri are being denied residency in a town because they are unmarried. The town does not want these people who do not fit into their definition of "family" to live in their town.
What I would like to know is how many of the "families" that are allowed to live their include abusive spouses? Or maybe some gay husbands married on the sly? How about some pregnant teenagers? Or even a convict or three?
These people in little Black Jack Missouri need to get over their little Beaver Cleaver view of life. Guess what folks, things were very far from perfect in those days. Life was not a sitcom and there were no neat wrap ups in thirty minutes. Women stayed in miserable abusive marriages because they knew that a) they would be totally ostracized by their "friends" and b) there was no way they would be able to support themselves in a pre-feminist society (Yes Ann Coulter, this means that you would have been chattle to be married off by your father and answerable to your husband. So much for all of liberalism being bad, eh?).
All I have to say is that this couple has been together for thirteen years and just wants to settle down in a little town to raise their kids. Who cares if they are not married? Even worse, who knew that in modern day America a person could still be evicted because they don't quite fit the norm. . .oops, guess some things never change do they?
posted by Vinnie G. @ 12:51 PM
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Surely in Missouri, after 13 years together, this couple has a common-law marriage? I mean, in the glorified state of Ohio, common law marriage is very easy to obtain for a man & woman who live together (my sister's former boyfriend went to jail for something stupid, and she had to have herself declared a common law wife in order to get conjugal visits! Oh the things we learn in life!!!)
I say, if they've been together 13 years and have kids, who the hell cares where they live?
On the other hand, they have the freedom to marry and have chosen not to -- wonder why?
I fight for the freedom to marry, and have had the choice NOT to be able to made for me, and wonder WHY?
Oh, what a world...
I agree wholeheartedly with everything you just said.
I truly hate it when oppression comes in the form of self-righteous "morality".
Like you mentioned, the "traditional" marriages are often rife with ugly situations like abuse and infidelity, so what makes them so much better than a "non-traditional" couple who really has a good healthy relationship?
I agree, this little Missouri town needs to get its head out of its ass.
Thanks for blogging about it! :)
Chris and I have been together for 5 years, living together for over 3, and we are looked down upon by his parents because we have been frank and told them we aren't going to get married. They think we are breaking some heavenly law, though we can show them in several places in the Bible where Jesus himself said don't get married, he Himself was not married (in spite of what the DaVinci code would have us swallow). The whole marriage thing was man-made anyway, and the only thing that is good (or bad, depending on your opinion) about marriage is the legal binding of people's property and money to eachother. This has been one issue I've had of late - facing my 44th birthday and feeling kindof old. In the event anything happens to me, all the property in my estate will legally go to my next of kin, my daughter. Chris will have worked and put in to this home and estate all these years and will walk away with nothing. On the other side, if he dies first, I won't be able to collect his Social Security (assuming there will be any to collect in that vacuum program). His sister is getting married this weekend, and the parents are extatic. Even though they have lived together 5 years, she's probably wearing white and the parents gave them a cruise for their honeymoon... I'm against it all personally, I've been grumbling since the announcement that those two should elope and stop bothering the rest of us. As for Chris and me, we'll tie our property up to eachother with some lawyer type expense, and be done with it. I was in an abusive marriage, and witnessed many drunken abusive marriages over the years, no thanks, and that little town of Black Strap Misery can kiss my lilly white fanny too.
Late to the game - man, I wrote about this a few months ago!
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